Deciding what to wear to a rehearsal dinner as a guest can be a big decision. A rehearsal dinner is considered one of the most intimate parts of a wedding celebration, as it traditionally includes just the close family and wedding party of a couple following the ceremony rehearsal. The night is filled with dinner, conversation, and speeches—but it can also have a very specific theme or dress code. If you are lucky enough to make the cut, it’s important to follow not only the dress code, but the unspoken rules around selecting your ensemble for this big event.
Ahead, learn all about what you should wear to a rehearsal dinner as a guest, from following the dress code to what colors to avoid.
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How to Decide What to Wear
A rehearsal dinner is an important pre-wedding event that is meant for an intimate group close to the couple. This party is a touch more formal than your average dinner, so your attire should follow suit. Of course, each wedding is different, so it’s best to adhere to these simple rules.
Follow the Dress Code
The most important step in deciding what to wear for a rehearsal dinner is to see if the couple has listed the official dress code for the event. While some dinners may lean towards guests wearing suits and gowns, others may follow a theme or have a more casual atmosphere. “When it comes to rehearsal dinner dressing, my biggest piece of advice is to follow the dress code,” shares bridal stylist Gabrielle Hurwitz. “If it’s ‘cocktail attire,’ wear a suit or a fun dress. If it’s ‘mountain chic,’ pull out your favorite pair of jeans and a sports coat or a fun dress and pair of boots.” If there’s no dress code on your invitation, you can always ask the couple what they would like you to wear at least a few weeks in advance. While it’s best not to burden a couple leading up to the wedding, you also don’t want to upset the aesthetic and formality of their important life event.
Check the Weather
While you want your outfit to be stylish and dress-code appropriate for the rehearsal dinner, you also don’t want to be uncomfortable. “Don’t forget to consider the time of year and location when picking out your outfit,” notes Hurwitz. “For example, you don’t want to be sweating in a long-sleeve dress on a beach in Mexico or shivering in a flimsy cocktail dress at a lodge in Jackson Hole because you didn’t dress warmly enough.” Give the weather app a check in the days leading up to the wedding to properly prepare. In case the forecast proves to be wrong, you can always back a backup ensemble in your suitcase.
Consider the Venue
The venue where the rehearsal dinner takes place can also impact your attire. Dining outdoors? You should be prepared to face the elements. Bring sunglasses for a sunny celebration and a shawl or sweater if the temperature will cool down in the evening. If you might be walking on sand or grass, it’s best to avoid stilettos to avoid digging into the dirt. Some venues may also have a specific dress code that you may need to follow, like wearing a jacket for dinner. Once you receive your invitation, it’s best to do a bit of research to ensure you won’t be uncomfortable or underdressed for the party.
Rehearsal Dinner Outfit Ideas for Guests
So what should you wear to a rehearsal dinner? Think about the tone and environment of the event. Outside of the basic dress code, consider who the guests of the event will be. Is the couple super fashion forward? If so, don’t be afraid to have some fun with your choices. Is their family more buttoned-up? Think about erring on the side of a tasteful ensemble that leans more classic than risqué. Remember, your outfit will show up in the couple’s wedding photos they’ll look back on for years. An elegantly styled suit or dress can take you far.
If you’re a wedding party member, it’s likely your attire for the actual wedding day will be dictated by the couple. So don’t be afraid to use the rehearsal dinner as your chance to show off your own style a little. Play around with fun accessories and select an ensemble that highlights your personality; just be sure it’s still within the expected parameters for the evening.
