My next two relationships were in college — and again, I thought, This is someone I’m going to end up with. We were both career-driven, we came from the same cultural background, we were involved in the same college activities. I thought we’d graduate college, find jobs, get engaged, get married, and have kids — all before turning 30. This was the relationship that was going to follow the blueprint that Hollywood taught me. And again, when that didn’t work out, it took a long time for me to reconcile what I saw played out in movies wasn’t going to match real life. That was when I realized that achieving “happily ever after” wasn’t as easy as I thought it was going to be. It was an eye-opening learning experience — or unlearning experience, if you will.