As a lady of larger size, partaking in intimacy that’s just as enjoyable for you as it is for your partner can be challenging. From limited flexibility to self-esteem concerns, the experience (for some) is often more of a chore than an activity. However, intercourse is an exciting, liberating art when done in a manner that caters to both party’s needs. With that, let’s get into some sex tips for plus size women that will change your life and get you right.
Your bedroom business should feel less like a workout and more like a fun alternative. Voluptuous girlies can go beyond old-fashioned missionary. Focus on fulfilling your fantasies in a way that allows bigger bodies not to feel restricted… or, worse, discouraged. Sexual insecurities are a real thing in the full-figured community. Something as simple as undressing in front of an individual for the first time can be scary.
Here are suggestions to ensure you receive the pleasure you deserve.
Sex Tips for Plus Size Women Who Want the Most Out of “Doing the Do”
Don’t Be Afraid to Be Open with Your Partner
Rule #1 — Drop the embarrassment. It’s easy to let your fears take over, especially if this is your first encounter with the person. However, conversing with him before the session could eliminate unnecessary stressors. Don’t overthink it! Let him know what works for you and what doesn’t, without shame.
Discussing what he’s into will give you an idea of how to show up in the sheets effectively but comfortably. Choosing a supportive lover who won’t mind listening and learning is also a priority. After all, having someone to offer safety and security in this setting helps to keep the nerves at bay.
Remix the Positions
Approaching traditional sex positions with a twist can aid in confidence-building in the bedroom. According to dating coach Abiola Abrams, utilizing techniques such as using countertops or implementing pillows could strengthen your and your mate’s orgasmic peak during love-making, she said in an Essence advice column.
“Sitting up on the kitchen counter will give you great balance and control. Then your man can enter you from the front. If he needs access assistance, there is nothing wrong with him standing on a small stool,” she advises. “You’re then able to have fun with no concerns about him or you holding up your weight.”
Additionally, Abrams mentioned lying on your side with one leg propped on the male’s shoulder for support OR straddling him on the edge of the bed near the headboard for a crutch to stay afloat. However, she didn’t rule out missionary completely. The sexpert feels there are other methods to try out for the position.
“Try using a pillow or two under your butt to change how your bodies interact. This will give an average size man more access and perhaps give you a little more thrusting power as well,” Abrams wrote. “He’s more likely to have clitoral contact and hit your g-spot this way, and my coaching clients report that this position also keeps a bountiful belly out of the way.”
Leave the Lights On
NEWSFLASH, SIS! They knew you had “more” to handle from the start. That’s why they have two hands. FREE THE FUPA, and LEAVE THE LIGHTS ON! You may not notice it, but each time you decide to hit the switch, you’re subconsciously holding back. You can’t reach your fullest potential or have a satisfying release in spaces where you’re uncomfortable.
According to an Australian study from a 2016 Weight Watchers campaign, 52% of Australian women involved in the research confessed to leaving the lights off during sex due to body-image issues, with only 28% making of the ones who don’t.
Those numbers have likely increased today.
Wear the Lingerie
Contrary to popular belief, there are still those who prefer the mystery of what’s behind the fabric, if you get our drift. Not only that but investing in some fancy lingerie keeps the sexiness alive. On you and in the atmosphere. Put on a nice laced-outfit and admire yourself in the mirror before you and your partner get things popping. Affirm yourself. Embrace yourself. And remind yourself that you’re worthy of feeling and being desired, too.
Let Them Watch
It’s always erotic to let your partner sit back and “enjoy the show.” Buy that new sex toy you’ve been wanting to test out and bring it along in the bedroom. As someone with a heftier frame, switching positions can be tiresome. If you need a breather but don’t want it to be as obvious, take a break with your vibrator and let your partner have a front-row seat to the view. They definitely won’t mind.
Which of these sex tips for plus size women was most helpful? Comment below!
This article, 5 Sex Tips for Plus Size Women That Will Make Your Bedroom Lifestyle More Pleasurable first appeared on The Curvy Fashionista and is written by Ashley Blackwell.
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